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Tamat Cuti Sekolah dan Kembali ke KL

Alhamdulillah, malam Selasa aku dan Khayla dah selamat sampai ke KL. Tamatlah cuti-cuti balik kampung kali ni yang penuh dengan agenda makan 😆. Pagi tadi aku dah timbang berat badan - naik sekilo uollssss 😅. Baru seminggu balik dah naik sekilo. Adudu...


TQ mak, hantarkan kiteorang ke airport...

Kita lupakan kejap hal diet yang kelaut tu 🤭.

Ikut plan asal, kiteorang sepatutnya balik hari Ahad tu sekali dengan Suami Terchenta dan Khadeeja. Tapi hari Khamis 4 hari sebelum kiteorang balik kampung, Khayla forward mesej dari cikgu yang dah boleh semak lokasi untuk menduduki ujian PKSK dekat pautan link yang diberikan. Aku pun bukak link tu dan check - tarikh ujian PKSK Khayla ialah pada 23 September (Selasa) di MRSM Bintulu. Khayla memang request nak apply MRSM di Bintulu, sebab tu aku pilih lokasi ujian dekat sini supaya dia boleh tengok sendiri keadaan sekolah yang dia nak apply tu. Jadi aku pun terpaksa ubah tarikh flight kiteorang balik ke KL pada hari Selasa. Nasib baik beli melalui trip.com dan ambik free cancellation fee. Jadi dapat balik refund tiket yang aku cancel tu untuk beli tiket baru.

Walaupun aku sebenarnya tak suruh dia apply sekolah berasrama penuh (SBP), tapi bila Khayla bagitau dia nak cuba, aku pun tak halang dia untuk hantar permohonan. Sebagai parent, kiteorang support je la apa yang anak nak buat selagi benda tu mendatangkan faedah. Kalau ada rezeki masuk SBP alhamdulillah. Kalau takde rezeki pun tak rasa ralat. Dapat tengok dia depan mata hari-hari sampai tamat sekolah menengah. Haha. Dilema mak anak dua ketul je. Kalau salah sorang anak takde depan mata, rasa tak lengkap family kiteorang 🥹. 


Pukul 7.40 pagi kiteorang sampai ke MRSM Bintulu untuk menghantar Khayla ke ujian PKSK

Aku dan mak drop off Khayla di bangunan pentadbiran untuk pendaftaran sebelum kiteorang balik ke rumah. Sempat la pusing sekolah ni masa nak keluar ke pintu utama. Sekolah ni baru dirasmikan 2 tahun lepas, jadi fasiliti dan bangunan semua masih baru. 


Dah macam kolej di universiti bangunan asrama ni

Bangunan surau terletak antara asrama pelajar perempuan dengan pelajar lelaki

Sementara Khayla menduduki ujian tu, aku pulang ke rumah untuk menghantar baju ke dobi. Lepas tu balik ke rumah untuk mengemas rumah sebelum kiteorang balik ke KL petang tu. 

Pukul 10.45 pagi kiteorang datang semula ambik Khayla lepas tamat ujian. Aku tanya dia, ok tak? Dia jawab ok, sempat siapkan semua soalan dalam tempoh yang diberikan. Tapi bila aku tanya dia apa soalan yang keluar, dia jawab tak ingat 😅. Agaknya penat dan malas nak ingat balik kot hihi. Dalam ramai-ramai yang datang ujian PKSK tadi, dia sorang je student dari luar Sarawak. Kecoh la cikgu-cikgu bila tau dia datang dari KL semata-mata nak duduk ujian PKSK di Bintulu 🤭.


Satu je komen Khayla - soalan yang keluar tak macam soalan dalam buku latihan PKSK yang aku belikan untuk dia praktis. Tak tau sama ada itu statement berbaur positif atau negatif 😜

Hmm... takpe. Yang penting Khayla dah buat yang terbaik dan selanjutnya, kita serahkan kepada Allah. Apapun keputusannya, itulah yang terbaik untuk anak dara aku yang seorang ni ✨.

Sebelum balik ke KL petang tu, aku tunaikan permintaan Khayla nak makan souffle pancake lagi sekali di Coffee Code.


Last sebelum balik ke KL

Dengan itu, tamatlah cuti-cuti di Bintulu. Masa untuk pulang ke KL. Kali ni kiteorang pilih untuk naik Batik Air pukul 6 petang sebab tak nak lewat sangat sampai ke rumah di KL. Tiba di rumah pukul 9 malam. Kalau naik MAS, pukul 8.40 malam baru terbang. Sampai rumah pukul 12 malam. Maka baiklah ambik Batik Air aje. Balik pun lenggang-kangkung bawak backpack je. Sukanya balik ke rumah tak payah nak unpack luggage!


Batik Air

Aku tempah nasi briyani kambing ni. Sedap jugak. Best nya dieorang hidang makanan dalam dulang macam MAS dulu-dulu...

Setakat ni puas hati naik Batik Air sebab jarang-jarang delay (flight dari Bintulu ke KL)

Apa Maksud FYP dan Singkatan Lain Dalam Media Sosial


Pernah tak korang terjumpa singkatan-singkatan yang digunakan di sosial media atau perbualan di media sosial di kalangan golongan muda sekarang? As a parent, agak challenging jugak nak memahami mesej dari anak-anak guna bahasa singkatan 🤣. Nampak nau dah tua!

So dekat sini aku senaraikan maksud dari singkatan yang kita jumpa di media sosial:

  • FYP = For Your Page. Merujuk kepada laman utama di akaun Tiktok atau bahagian 'Explore' di Instagram. Konten video atau IG posting yang dipaparkan ialah hasil dari algoritma aplikasi Tiktok / IG berdasarkan video / posting yang pernah disukai ('liked') sebelum ni. Selalunya pembikin konten dan pempengaruh media sosial berusaha untuk menjadikan video / posting IG dieorang muncul di FYP akaun pengguna lain dengan menggunakan hashtag yang popular, membuat konten berdasarkan isu yang trending / viral.
  • DM / PM = Direct Message / Private message. Merujuk kepada permintaan atau perbuatan menulis mesej yang dihantar terus ke inbox pemilik akaun dan bukannya di bahagian komen.
  • RN = Right now. Contoh ayat - 'Boleh turun ke bawah rn?'
  • AFK = Away from keyboard. Merujuk kepada pesanan buat pengguna / kawan-kawan lain yang dia sedang offline. Contoh ayat - 'Aku nak AFK kejap sebab mak panggil makan.'
  • POV = Point of view. Merujuk kepada sudut pandangan seseorang contohnya pembuat konten semasa melakonkan senario dalam video konten dieorang.
  • SMH = Shake my head. Merujuk kepada ekspresi susah nak percaya.
  • ASMRAutonomous Sensory Meridian Response. Merujuk kepada rangsangan deria penonton bila mendengar efek bunyi dari aktiviti harian contohnya memasak, unboxing produk, makan (mukbang) dll.
  • ALR = All right. Bermaksud baiklah atau OK.
  • GRWM = Get ready with me. Merujuk kepada konten video tentang seorang pempengaruh sosial sewaktu bersiap-siap keluar rumah dengan fokus kepada fesyen baju yang dipakai, produk muka dan kosmetik yang digunakan, dll.

Tu la antara singkatan perkataan yang digunakan dalam media sosial sekarang ni. Sebenarnya banyak lagi sebab bahasa anak-anak zaman sekarang berevolusi dengan cepat sampai kadang-kadang aku tertanya-tanya ni bahasa apa yang dieorang pakai ye.

Apa lagi singkatan yang anak-anak / adik-adik korang gunakan yang boleh kongsi di komen?

On Mom's Duty Today

Semalam cikgu Khadeeja mintak tolong a few parents untuk menghantar beberapa orang murid dan cikgu ke raptai hari sukan sekolah pagi tadi sebab pihak sekolah ada masalah pengangkutan. Kebetulan aku pun nak keluar ada urusan di PJ, jadi aku pun setuju.


Pakai smart sikit sebab ada urusan di PJ lepas hantar budak-budak tu

Kat manakah latihan raptai hari sukan sekolah dibuat? Jeng.. jeng.. jeng! Hint: salah seorang rakan blogger ialah pensyarah di sini. 



Yaaaa... pagi tadi kita melawat kawasan Mama Zharfan ðŸ˜…. Tapi tak dan nak ajak MZ jumpa sebab pagi tadi memang plan nak drop off lepas tu terus gerak ke PJ.


Ambik gambar sekejap lepas tu terus gerak

Selesai urusan di PJ, ada sejam lagi sebelum raptai habis jadi singgah makan kat kedai mamak dulu sebab dah cukup 16 jam berpuasa.


Ambik sesenduk nasi, 3 jenis sayur dan 2 biji telur rebus bersambal - semuanya RM10.50

Esok pagi kena bertolak awal sebab kena ada kat kompleks sukan jam 7.30 pagi. Lepas hari sukan, cuti sekolah yeeeaayyyy!

Aktiviti Cuti Sekolah: Khadeeja Masuk Kelas Programming di Kidocode

Orang kata, ke mana tumpahnya kuah kalau tak ke nasi. Dalam kes kiteorang ni, Suami Terchenta boleh rasa bangga sebab Khadeeja ikut jejak langkahnya iaitu coding skill. Di sekolah lama Khayla dulu pernah diajar coding menggunakan aplikasi Scratch Junior. Bila Khadeeja tengok kakaknya buat coding, dia pun nak tiru jugak dan sejak tu beberapa kali dia develop permainan ringkas yang dia mintak kiteorang test. Permainan yang aku paling suka ialah permainan kuiz. Kakaknya pulak lebih berminat dengan digital art dan kurang minat dengan programming. Sebab tu kiteorang cuma enrol Khadeeja seorang je untuk mengasah bakatnya dalam programming memandangkan cita-citanya nak menjadi seorang engineer


Kidocode
Kelas programming di Kidocode
 

Semalam kiteorang pun hantar Khadeeja belajar programming di Kidocode yang terletak di Solaris Dutamas. Bila kiteorang sampai, ramai jugak parents lain yang dah sampai dan sedang menunggu anak-anak habis kelas. 


Kidocode
Bila tengok setup kelas macam ni, menggamit memori ke kafe Internet semata-mata nak chatting dengan Suami Terchenta masa mula-mula kenal dulu... 

Kidocode
Cabaran teka-teki untuk mak bapak sementara tunggu anak-anak habis kelas


Bagusnya kat sini, setiap seorang pelajar akan di assign seorang trainer.Mula-mula sekali, trainer bagi penerangan dekat Khadeeja tentang platform yang akan digunakan. 


Kidocode
Khadeeja khusyuk dengar penerangan dari trainer

Selepas berpuas hati yang Khadeeja dah biasa dengan platform tu, barulah trainer ajar Khadeeja buat aktiviti coding. Kat sini Kidocode menggunakan konsep gaming iaitu setiap kali pelajar menghabiskan satu lesson dengan betul, akan dapat bit dan coin. Jumlah bit menentukan kedudukan ranking pelajar dengan pelajar-pelajar lain dan coin pulak boleh digunakan untuk 'beli' sesuatu dari platform tu untuk memudahkan aktiviti coding.


Kidocode
Khadeeja mula belajar asas bahasa pengaturcaraan Python

Suami Terchenta bagitau yang dia pun tak biasa dengan Python programming ni sebab Python ialah the next programming language memandangkan pada masa hadapan semua aplikasi akan menjadi cloud-native. Cloud-native ni bermaksud aplikasi tu boleh diakses dari mana-mana tempat menggunakan mana-mana device. Setakat tu je la yang aku faham sebab aku ni bukan dari bidang IT hehe. Kalau nak bercakap pasal Akta Kerja atau Akta Perhubungan Perusahaan tu memang bidang aku. Bab IT ni aku serahkan dengan Suami Terchenta je.

By the way, parents pun boleh pantau progress anak-anak dalam kelas ni sebab setiap parent diberi ID dan password sendiri untuk akses platform ni:


Kidocode

Apapun aku doakan skill coding ni akan membantu Khadeeja mencapai cita-citanya menjadi seorang engineer. Caiyok Khadeeja!

Baby room @KLIA

Salam. Kali ni aku nak review pasal baby room @ KLIA khas buat ibubapa yang ada anak kecik di luar sana.

Setiap kali nak travel dengan anak2 kecik ni, macam-macam cobaan yang terpaksa dilalui, betul tak? Kalau kena naik flight awal pagi, nak kejutkan anak-anak, salin baju dieorang, buat susu dieorang dah satu hal. Belum lagi kalau tak sempat mandi tu, pampers pulak dah penuh / basah nak cari tempat untuk salin baju / salin pampers. Yang anak melalak nak menyusu atau tak cukup tido pun satu lagi hakikat yang kena tanggung. Sudahnya, ramai parents yang tak sanggup la hai travel dengan anak-anak kecik.

So, bila kena travel jugak, bersyukur lah bila airport tu ada sediakan bilik khas untuk anak-anak kecik. Segala macam kemudahan ada. Cuma nak buat susu formula je belum lagi disediakan di sini.

Meh aku bawakkan korang bilik bayi @ KLIA. Dalam bilik ni ada sinki tempat nak mandikan anak-anak kecik atau bersihkan badan dieorang lepas berak / kencing. Kalau anak2 yang nak menumpang baring-baring sambil menyusu atau tidur sementara tunggu flight, katil baby pun ada disediakan.


Baby room @KLIA
Bilik menyusukan bayi

Baby room @KLIA
Ada dua area sinki untuk basuh botol / mandikan anak / etc.

Baby room @KLIA
Tempat tukar lampin baby

Baby room @KLIA
Sabun tangan dan paper towel je  disediakan, so korang pandai2 la bawak tuala dan sabun mandi sendiri

Parents kena supervise anak-anak kecik dalam bilik ni
Buat anak-anak yang dah potty-train pulak, ada bilik air yang kids-friendly kat dalam bilik ni. Sebabnya, dia tak perlu takut terjatuh dalam toilet bila ada toilet seat yang kecik sesuai untuk kanak-kanak. Anak lelaki pulak ada tempat khas untuk dieorang jugak.


Suasana bilik ni selesa dan comel, siap dengan kertas dinding yang menarik untuk bagi keselesaan yang lebih kepada pengguna. Sofa yang selesa pun disediakan untuk parents / adik-beradik yang menunggu. Cuma, disebabkan bilik breastfeeding tu just ditutup dengan tirai, pasti kurang selesa kalau ada lebih dari seorang pengguna yang nak guna bilik ni. Especially kalau ada kanak-kanak yang nakal yang tarik tirai masa ibu tengah breastfeed. Better la korang pakai jugak nursing cover kalau ada orang lain yang sama-sama guna bilik ni.

Aku selalu jugak guna bilik ni kalau travel dengan anak-anak sebab biasanya bila nak sampai awal di airport kami tak mandikan anak-anak di rumah. So sampai di sini, lepas check in barang (kalau ada), terus la singgah di sini untuk siapkan dieorang. Bezanya, dulu ada air panas untuk anak-anak mandi, tapi sejak kebelakangan ni aku perasan tak de air panas pulak.



Lastly, bilik baby ni terletak di departure level, kat area tengah2 (berdekatan dengan tandas lelaki & wanita). Ada dua bilik bayi ni kalau tak silap. So convenient la sebab tak perlu nak turun naik tingkat, lepas settle urusan terus pergi ke departure area.

Kalau compare dengan KLIA2, aku rasa better lagi kemudahan dalam bilik bayi di KLIA. Next time Insya Allah aku akan review KLIA2 baby room supaya korang boleh bandingkan sendiri kedua-dua baby room ni. 

Why I Choose Modern Cloth Diaper as my Thesis Subject

Been a while since I last wrote about anything other than my darling, precious babies. LOL! I'm also nearing the end of my MBA studies, and fervently hoping that I could graduate by next semester! Initially the plan is to graduate by this semester, but turned out there's too much work for my thesis that I did not anticipate so I have no choice but to revise the plan and do my thesis in two semesters instead.

Since discovering the world of cloth diapering (or CD-ing, among the cloth diapers supporters), I've been hooked to CD that even my thesis is about modern CD. For a product that is time-consuming, high maintenance and not as straightforward as disposable diaper (termed DD by the same supporters), still many people choose to use CD and shun the disposable one.

Khayla wearing CD

It gets me wonder and reflect upon my own decision. For me, I chose CD because I like to think that I am concern of the environment (for the sake of my children), it is value-for-money (think of the long-term savings when we don't have to buy diapers every month), and to certain extent, the diva side of me is attracted to the various cute designs available on the market (although I only bought one such diaper and the rest are plain but brightly coloured design).

In other words, CD appeals to various dimensions of consumer value which gives people favourable impression (attitude) towards it and because of that, combined with the fact that people love sharing about everything on the Internet nowadays, they get the words around and try to get other people to love this product as well.

Maybe some moms love CD because they can make more friends who are also using CD, so that they can swap reviews about different brands - known as social value.

Maybe another mom who loves the fact that it is economical and to certain extent, performs as good as DD and wants to share this knowledge with other people - efficient and excellence value.

Or the fashion-conscious one likes the various patterns and colours available on the market and buy more and spread the news about where to find the cutest design - aesthetics value.

Or maybe only those who loves the environment are the ones likely to say good things about this product - altruistic value.

Or… maybe some just can't say why they like it, they just do. When they use cloth diapers, it gets them excited, happy, and gives them so much positive emotion that they just want to tell other people about it - play value.

I also notice that of all the various green products available on the market, CD is the only one that garners support groups. You don't see a Facebook page dedicated to say, energy-efficient fridge. Or woven bags. Or recycled products.

But cloth diapers? Google 'cloth diapers' and you will find plenty of support / fan groups all over the world. The discussions can range from which brand is of the best quality, which inserts could hold more urine, which type is the best for newborn, where to buy the cheapest CDs, how to wash CDs correctly, and so on and so forth. All the hype just over cloth diapers.

Then I looked up studies on modern cloth diapers but there are only a handful found (in fact I only found one study in the UK), and none in my own country. Some of my lecturers have never even heard of modern cloth diapers.

So I want to do justice to this wonderful invention. This product that have the potential to save our Mother Earth, and gives us so much joy at the same time. No doubt, it will be a challenging task getting people to participate in the study (filling up forms can remind us of the good ol' exam days, no?), but I'm going to try nonetheless. If I can increase awareness on this product at the academic level, it would be a wonderful step towards making this product recognised at higher learning institution level.

Please click this link to go to my online survey.

If you fulfil the criteria, maybe you can also help me out. I'll be extremely grateful.

Please help my mom graduate! ~ Khadeeja

My Experience Flying with Small Children

(Disclaimer: This posting is based on my own experience flying short-haul flights (2 hours and below), and does not reflect on any airlines' standard procedure nor endorsed by health professionals. Readers are recommended to seek relevant info from the airlines' website or speak with their baby's doctor prior to air travel. These tips may not always work out with other infants and I will not bear responsibility for any outcome after following these tips).

'Macamana ko boleh bawak dua orang budak naik flight sorang-sorang ye?'

I get questions like this (insert awed look, triple exclamation marks and incredulous tone) after coming back from our balik kampung trip. My answer is always simple - 'Macam tu la, macamana lagi?'

Hehe. The truth is, when I do have to fly with a small baby (what more to say with two small babies), I will plan the entire journey with military precision - right from a few days before the journey down to after leaving the airplane! No kidding! Better be safe than be cursed by 100+ passengers upset by my screaming baby, right? Right???

Have baby sling, stroller, well-equipped diaper bag and milk supply - will travel peacefully!

I'm writing this post to share my experience with a new mommy, Amy Maria. Good luck traveling with your lil' boy, Amy!

Tips #1: Avoid early morning flights - unless you are prepared to miss your flight

I speak from my own experience of missing our 7am flight. I stayed up late to pack the night before, lay out our outfits and make sure that nothing is left out. But fate has it that we woke up slightly later than planned (5am, actually), then had to prepare ourselves and Khayla, and ended up missing our flight. When you are traveling with kids, anticipate longer preparation time and factor in all possible scenarios that could happen and cause the delay. If you still could take early morning flight after considering all these - well, kudos to you! (I know I can't!)

Tips #2: Request for baby bassinet

When traveling with a small baby, I make sure that both baby & I are truly comfortable throughout the flight. Holding a baby for 2 hours can be tiring. So I try to plan ahead, and get seats where I can utilize the in-flight baby bassinet. Some airlines require you to notify in advance to use this facility. My experience with Malaysia Airlines have been terrific as they have this facility when I booked front seats, and they accommodated my requests whenever I need to let my baby sleep in the bassinet.


Khadeeja, aged 2 weeks, sleeping peacefully in the bassinet


But what do I do when the seats are already assigned to someone else and I can't use the baby bassinet? This is when a baby sling comes in handy (literary and figuratively speaking). I use baby sling to free my hands and let baby sleep snugly in the sling. Baby sling and nursing cover are truly, man's greatest inventions!


My Experience Flying with Small Children
Khayla enjoying her bottle of milk while lying on my lap, and Khadeeja napping in the baby sling

Tips #3: Have baby's identification ready for checking (and ours too)


Due to safety reason, some airlines don't allow infants younger than 7 days old on-board. Parents must also furnish the infant's birth certificate during check-in, so make sure it is not left at home or kept in checked-in baggage!

Tips #4: Pack right, pack light!

When you become a new parent, forget about your designer handbag. Now your baby's diaper bag becomes your handbag! Unless of course you are one of the Kardashian sisters who can afford Prada diaper bag (wow, Prada has diaper bag!).

My Experience Flying with Small Children
Prada baby bag

I've learnt not to under- or over-estimate packing my baby's bag. It has to carry all the essential stuffs yet light enough and not cramped with all sorts of unnecessary items that I could not find anything when the need arises (and that need can escalate to a shrieking fury as baby gets distressed while mommy desperately rummages through the diaper bag that people may actually think you are digging into the black hole!).

Only bring necessary items for hand luggage and check in the rest. Here's an interesting fact for passengers of Malaysia Airlines:

For your convenience, Malaysia Airlines allows for an additional 10 kg of purely baby essentials (including a bassinet or carrycot) over and above the free baggage allowance as allotted to an infant’s accompanying adult passenger.

How awesome is Malaysia Airlines? :D

These are the 10 MUST-HAVE items in the diaper bag according to yours truly:

  1. Spare clothes (warm clothing, long-sleeved baby rompers are ideal), in case baby poops or spits up milk all over her dress / shirt. Only a pair is necessary for short travel.
  2. A small towel or baby bib - to wipe spit up milk or burp baby.
  3. A new pack of baby wet wipes - I make sure there are still plenty before the journey.
  4. Diapers - Khayla is currently using disposable diapers while Khadeeja is using cloth diapers. For Khayla, I normally pack 3 pieces of disposable diapers in the bag (theoretically, one each for change at the departure airport, during the flight and at the arrival airport). Unless your baby is having diarrhea or you are experiencing terrible delays or in a flight of more than 5 hours, I reckon you won't need all 3 diapers. At the most, you will use only one diaper.

For Khadeeja, I will bring an extra diaper, and additional 2 soakers. However, since discovering biodegradable soakers that can be disposed of without worrying about the environmental impact, I've gone hybrid and gotten one of those biodegradable soakers to use with CD shell (that way I don't need to bring a lot of CDs, or worry about washing and drying them while on the go. Pretty cool, huh?). I use Grovia biodegradable soakers (which costs me RM35.90 for 30 pieces) with Lunatots CD, and once soiled, I just throw away the soakers and re-use the outer shell. You can purchase it at any leading baby store.

My Experience Flying with Small Children
As the pack indicates - the perfect solution for cloth diapering on the go :)

5. Diaper changing mat / baby blanket - if your diaper bag doesn't come with diaper changing mat, then you can also use your baby blanket provided it is wet-proof. Some infants like to be wrapped in baby blanket, so remember to bring it along as well.
6. Diaper cream / rash cream 
7. A bottle of milk - when I have to travel alone with my baby, I prefer the convenience of bottle feeding EBM to my baby. I would pump milk before leaving home and store it in the baby bottle (so no hassle of transferring from storage bottle to baby bottle). EBM can stand in room temperature for up to 5 hours so you don't have to chill or freeze it before. Just keep away from sunlight and it is good to go. You can also ask for help from the stewardess to warm up the milk but be sure to provide specific instruction i.e. what temperature of water to use to heat up the milk (Once, I asked one of the flight crew to warm up the chilled milk and when he came back, the milk was too hot to consume straightaway and all nutrients destroyed!).

Once Khayla started on formula, I pack the formula in small air-tight container and prepare the formula on board. If you are flying MAS, you don't have to bring hot water flask as everything is provided. Heck, even if you forget the formula, they have 'a limited quantity of baby formula' for your baby's convenience. However, if you are flying AirAsia, I highly recommend you come fully prepared.

8. Nursing cover - This comes in handy when I don't have the time to pump in advance and can nurse my baby on board. Additional tips - get a window seat for more privacy, and don't be shy to request for a pillow to support your baby. When not in use, nursing cover can double as baby blanket so you don't have to bring both at the same time.
9. Pacifier - pacifiers are Khayla's and my best friend whenever we had to travel last time (now she has outgrown the pacifier, thank God). A pacifier can help balance the air pressure inside baby's ears, keep them soothed and help them sleep better. To avoid accidentally dropping it on the floor, clip it using pacifier clip to your baby's front shirt.

Some parents oppose to the use of pacifier as many baby experts say that it is not hygienic, disrupt with baby's appetite for milk, delay speech development and it will be hard to take it away once baby has become attached to it. My experience with Khayla using the pacifier proved that it is not necessarily true, because pacifiers are only used at certain times (helping her to fall asleep, during flight take-off and landing, during long distance car trips, distract her from teething pain, etc.).

10. Baby's medicines and oral syringe - it's better to be prepared than be sorry. So wherever we travel, we will also pack the kids' medicines and oral syringe to administer the medicine. It's also good practise to have a small stash of band-aids, hand sanitizer and Dettol in your baby's diaper bag.

My Experience Flying with Small Children
Khayla flying back to Miri at night - dressed in warm fur coat

As the baby grows older, I add a few more essentials like:

11. Baby food - dry finger food like baby biscuits or cut fruits are easier to store, less messy and easier to clean up afterwards compared to rice cereal or puree. Yes, it is less nutritious but considering that a spoonful of that rice cereal could end up on somebody else's hair or clothes (babies can be notorious during meal times!), it's best to opt for something less messy.

My Experience Flying with Small Children
Ration for the flight journey

12. Baby teether - for teething babies. They get more miserable when they are confined to the plane seat and not allowed to crawl anywhere and bite everything!
13. Baby's favourite mobile toys or books - rattle, mobiles etc. I'm one of those shameless moms who dole out iPad for my babies to pass the time :P Anything to stop them from quarrelling and crying during the flight! Just sharing my experience, Malaysia Airlines also give out free storybooks or activity books to keep them entertained. I heart MAS! :D

Optional item - breast pump, accessories and storage bottles. I pack these separately but carry them as hand luggage (I'm using Medela Freestyle which I stow in my handbag to minimize hang luggage).

Tips #5: Dress practically!

Normally, I dress my kids in layers that can be removed according to the climate - loose, comfortable clothing that is easy to take off whenever I need to change their diapers (e.g. rompers with not so many complicated buttons or dress with underwear); jacket or cardigans that can be taken off and stash in the diaper bag when it gets too warm; socks and comfortable shoes. Don't go for one-sies that you have to unbutton numerous buttons to get your baby out of it. Leggings are cute and warm but when you are changing a wriggling baby in the plane's toilet amidst air turbulent, it can be unbelievably exasperating to put back on!

My Experience Flying with Small Children
Khayla aged one year old, flying to Kota Kinabalu

Likewise, I plan my own outfit to suit the journey as well. My outfit has to be nursing-friendly, like shirt with button opening, kaftan top and loose dress. Jubah robe, maxi dress, baju kurung or fit blouses that can't be lifted up single-handedly or snug around the chest area - are a no-no.  Secondly, when I travel alone with my baby(s), I opt for jeans or pants with pockets to keep the boarding passes and Mykad/Mykid. This way, I can save time rummaging around in my handbag / diaper bag (remember, I'm carrying a baby, a diaper bag and a handbag at the same time so no free hands to look for small items!)

Tips #6: When necessary, bring the stroller

I have a confession - I am hopelessly over-dependent on a stroller. Maybe because of age or the lack of calcium, I get backache easily when carrying my baby for long period. Khayla also gets extremely grouchy and uncooperative if we forced her to walk. I depend on strollers so much that I even bought a tandem stroller - Babyjogger City Select that can switch from single to double stroller whenever I go out with both Khayla and Khadeeja!

My Experience Flying with Small Children
I splurged on this stroller but no regret at all since it really fits into my busy lifestyle

So even when I'm flying, I will bring a lightweight buggy knowing Khayla only too well. Both MAS and AirAsia allow parents to check-in stroller and use it up to before boarding the flight. When flying MAS, I had to fill in a simple form which they will attach to the stroller tag for identification when collecting the stroller upon arrival. AA doesn't require any form-filling though. Both airlines require parents to close the stroller before they store it in the cargo compartment. 

Tips #7: Bring baby's medical record / hospital book everywhere in case of emergency


Of course, we never know when accidents can happen but being prepared can be a life-and-death decision. If ever we were involved in accidents, I would like doctors to know my baby's age, what kind of immunization my baby had taken, her blood type, if she has any allergic reactions to certain medications before, etc. All these are recorded in her medical book so make sure to bring it anywhere you and your baby go.

Tips #8: Know about immigration clearance procedure

I'm referring to domestic travel between Peninsular and East Malaysia. Peninsular Malaysia citizens bringing their baby to East Malaysia (you can look up info from the Immigration Department website), are no longer required to fill up any form or produce passport when they fly into Sarawak or Sabah. They are however issued with a white slip (IMM 114) as alternative to passport, which they must keep and show to the immigration officer when flying out of the state. Likewise, parents just have to show baby's birth certificate at the airport immigration checkpoint when traveling with infant. Still, the 90-day social pass thing-y is still enforced on both parents and kids.

Parents / parent of Sarawak origin (like myself) don't have to worry about the grace period as their kid will be accorded same status as any other Sarawakians. Initially I was worried because both my kids' birth registration number don't carry Sarawak registration number (13) since they are born in KL. Turned out no matter where they were born as long as one of the parent is Sarawakian, the system will recognise them as Sarawakian as well. Phew!

Tips #9: Adjust your baby's sleep routine prior to the journey

Babies are predictable creatures and they love routines. When their routines are interrupted, that's when they get ill-tempered and fussy. So if you are flying in the afternoon, start to encourage your baby to sleep around the time you'll be catching your flight a few days in advance so it will be easier to put her to sleep on D-day. Night travels are more relaxed for me because it takes little effort to put the kids to sleep after an exhausting day. 

Another tactic I used is letting my kids stay up as long as they like, and then waking them up early. This way, they can catch up on sleep during the flight. But there's also a risk to this strategy - baby can also get so high-strung from lack of sleep and unfamiliar environment and go into tantrum mode before finally winding down (which is more often than not, by the time the journey ends).

My Experience Flying with Small Children
While adik sleeps in the baby bassinet, Khayla admired the reading light

I also try my best not to let them fall asleep before and during the flight take-off or in other words - I save the nap only for during the flight! 

Remember. Nothing is more harrowing than trying to pacify a bad-tempered, tired and frustrated baby when everyone around you is giving you annoyed looks.

Tips #10: Don't be shy to ask for help from strangers!

Really, Malaysian people are a bunch of nice people who would not mind lending a helping hand, ONLY IF you ask nicely. Most of the time, people are shy of offering their help because of the Asian culture of saving your face ('maybe I'll embarrass her more if I offered my help when she doesn't ask for it?'). I am never a shy one when it comes to asking for help when I truly need it!

Do you have more tips to contribute? Please share in comment column :)

The Cloth Diaper Story - Khadeeja's Experience

Hi peeps!

Today I'm gonna talk about cloth diaper experience. Ever since my friend introduced me to cloth diapers, I have been a huge fan of it for numerous reasons. One, because I love the environment. Do you know how much landfills are made up of dirty diapers? Can you imagine inheriting those landfills to your kids? I can't. I want them to have a clean, good environment to live in when they grow up. Two, because in the long run it saves us a lot of money. Three, because it's available in various cute colours *coughcoughpurple* Four, the modern cloth diaper is designed in practical manner and can be used from newborn to toddler age. Last but not least, it's so easy to use and to clean - gone are the days when cloth diapers need to be hand-washed separately to remove the soils and urine.

Basically, switching to cloth diaper is not tedious at all and therefore, suits my busy lifestyle.

Khadeeja wearing cloth diaper by Lunatots brand

Ever since I was pregnant with Khadeeja, I've made up my mind to use cloth diapers on her on daily basis. The disposable diapers are only reserved for long outings (which I intend to change soon and try using cloth diaper exclusively).

I chose Lunatots cloth diaper (CD) because I love their practical design that enables the CD to grow with the baby - their adjustable buttons are the trick. Isn't that clever? Secondly, most diapers are designed to have inner inserts. Lunatots Premium CD have outer inserts that are easily removed for cleaning and only need to be clipped onto the outer layer for use. Read more on my reviews of their CD here and here.

Starting the cloth diaper is neither hard nor expensive, once you have decided to be an environmental- and price-conscious mom. These are some of the initial reservations and how I handled it:

1. Cloth diapers are expensive! Disposables are cheaper in the short-run. Do I really save a lot if I switched to cloth diapers?

For moms who find the initial investment quite intimidating (the premium cloth diaper's price sets you back by RM69.90 per set), do not lose heart. It may look intimidating now, but the savings that you make in the long run especially when you start early is worth it. For example, after I decided to use CD exclusively, we never found the need to re-stock Khadeeja's disposable diaper since a month ago. That saves us RM75/month. If she used CD till she's fully potty-trained at the age of 36 months old, we would save roughly RM1302.

Some people will say, 'Oh, it's not that much savings! Only RM1302 for 3 years. What's the big deal?' If we put that RM75 to her savings every month, she would have more than that amount since she'll earn dividends and whatnots, don't you agree? Furthermore, if you have two kids using diapers, you can save around RM2k with the same initial investment. Double the savings, parents!

2. But I don't earn that much! How can I buy enough diapers for daily use?

I thought of the same too. But since I found out about my pregnancy, I started to purchase the diapers in small quantity every month. I bought at least one diaper per month, and towards the end of my pregnancy, I had collected 20 CDs of the same brand (including those I bought for Khayla before I knew I was pregnant again). The CDs are used by my firstborn before Khadeeja's arrival, and now that Khayla is most of the time diaper-free, Khadeeja uses the diapers daily :)

3. Does it leak? I doubt it will last as long as a disposable. I might have to change it sooner than a disposable.

Mothers, what are thinking? Do you wear the same sanitary pad all day during your menses? No, right? Why practise differently when it comes to your baby? Disposables might not leak because they have chemical gels to lock the urine, but as it absorbs more urine, the gel will soon get in contact with the baby's bottom and baby ends up with diaper rash. Diapers need to be changed on regular basis whether it's "full" or not anyway.

By the way, so far I change the CD every 3-4 hours for 3-month old Khadeeja (unless she poops, of course). That is roughly the same duration of using a disposable. And since the outer layer is water-proof, the CD doesn't leak. Therefore in a day, Khadeeja wears 5 CDs (at night, I put extra layer for her comfort).

Besides saving me a lot of disposables, it also means less garbage for us to bring down to the garbage bin, especially since we are living in an apartment!

4. Five CDs in a day? So in 4 days, she'll run out of clean CD and that means more laundry, right? How troublesome.

When you are the type that sends dirty clothes to a nearby laundry instead of doing your own laundry, yes. When you don't have a washing machine and instead, hand-wash your clothes, yes. For the first type, having a kid is not advisable. For the second type, get a washing machine! What's wrong with you?? Let the machine do the job while you bond with your kids.

For me, every time I change the diapers, I will put the soiled CD in a pail. When the pail is full, I dump everything in the washing machine, fill it up with water and detergent, let the diapers soak for an hour or two before starting the washing mode. If Khadeeja poops in it, I just remove the poo in the toilet bowl, give it a bit of a rub to remove the excess soil, and soak the insert in detergent and just a little bit of bleach overnight before adding that to the washing machine. Remember, I'm mom to 2 kids, and I've done this since I was working and studying, while looking after a young toddler and pregnant at the same time! What's your excuse?

At the same time, I do advise you to wash the CDs once the clean ones are down to a day's need so that there's ample time for the CDs to dry and you will have more clean stock to last you for the next few days :)

All in all, considering the huge benefits of using a cloth diaper, it was a decision that I don't regret. Of course nothing is ever perfect - for example after a while the outer layer velcro tapes tend to wear out and don't stick as good as before. This is because I don't use the mesh bag when laundering the CDs. Lunatots also have another option of buttons instead of velcro tapes. Furthermore, I'm informed that they can help you to change the velcro tapes at a fee if you bring the CDs to their shop. You can even change it yourself.

I hope more and more mothers will make the decision to use cloth diapers because saving the environment is not a job for only one mom. I've done my part, so please do your part as well, won't you?

Help me grow up in a clean environment, people...

The Potty Training Journey

Happy Saturday peeps!

I've been wanting to document the story of Khayla's potty training because in no time at all, I'll be potty-training Khadeeja for all I know! Seriously, these kids grow up too fast. One minute Khadeeja is just a wrinkled, day-old baby and now she's rolling on the mattress and turning herself from back to front! Sob, sob… I wish I could freeze time and spend more time with their baby selves, you Moms out there know what I mean right?

Ok. So back to potty-training journey.

Before I gave birth to Khadeeja, we found out that Khayla's awesome nursery is closing shop and suddenly, we are back to square one - taska shopping! I tell you, this is one task that I hate to do because it involves major transition and nerve-wrecking, trust/relationship-building all over again. What if Khayla can't fit in? What if she cries every day? What if the new place is not as good as the old ones? Eh, eh, why am I writing about taska-shopping pulak?

Anyway, soon we found the best school in Sri Gombak to send our 2-year old daughter. The moment I stepped into the school, I just love the environment, the syllabus, the friendly kids of which some attended Khayla's previous nursery so she won't be too lonely after losing her one and only best friend.

The only problem is - okay there are two problems. One, she was not 2 and a half years old yet. She just turned two. The school only admits 2 1/2 year old kids to 6 years old for some developmental milestones reasons and because their concept is not a nursery but a kindergarten. Two, because she wasn't potty-trained yet.

We are back on the potty-training story. Yeay!

It was then I decided that she should start to be potty-trained so that she could try out at the school because developmental wise, I'm confident my Khayla is quite an independent spirit. She just needs to lose the diaper and she's as good as any 2 1/2 year old kids. Hehe.

The moment I got back from my maternity leave in Bintulu, we straightaway got down to the potty-training task.

WARNING: 'Accidents' WILL happen during this process. My friend warned me to put away carpet and put water-proof layer on my sofa which I didn't heed (and later regretted). Always ensure mop is available and plenty of rags to wipe up the pool of urine! Occasionally, you might also need kitchen towel to pick up faeces. So make sure you put your kid on a regular diet and NOT introduce something that might IRRITATE his/her tummy during this process!

TIPS: When can you start potty-training? Studies show that starting too young is not really beneficial (except it saves you on diapers, probably?) because kids will learn to control their bladder / bowel movement around 18months or as early as 15 months old. Therefore, even though you start training them at few months old, they will only master the skill at around 18months old and maybe even later. Another suggestion is to start potty-training once the baby/toddler could communicate to you of her/his need to go to the toilet.


Step #1: Buy a training pant



Potty Training Journey
I purchased this Bambinomio training pants

The purpose of wearing training pant is to avoid accidents but at the same time the waterproof layer makes the toddler feel wetness on her bum area. Bambinomio has these pants in various cute colours :) For more info, go to Bambinomio.com to check out the details.

For the first few days, Khayla looked puzzled and kept stopping to feel the pants because it must have been weird that it isn't as heavy as wearing a diaper! LOL! I still put this on her as her underwear at home because sometimes she gets engrossed in her play and only realises she needs to go to the toilet when it's too late :p


Step #2: Buy a potty chair

I thought of potty-training Khayla ever since she turned one so I bought a potty seat, you know the one that you just put over the toilet seat so that kids will not fall into the toilet while using it. But then I fell pregnant with Khadeeja and just didn't have the energy to potty-train a toddler with my constantly sick condition.


Potty Training Journey
Potty seat similar to the one that I first purchased last year

Why I bought this? First of all, it's less than RM10. And the practical me thought - let's skip the whole potty chair thing-y and get her used to using the real toilet because I don't have to clean up the potty after she does her business. Ladies & gentlemen, that is one dumb thought. Most toddlers find it terrifying to sit on a toilet for the first time because they feel like they will fall into the toilet bowl. My Khayla is no exception.

So I bought a potty chair that resembles the toilet for her to use. She thought it was great fun lifting up the lid, sitting on it and then pretending to flush it for the first few days.


Potty Training Journey
Kids' potty chair

Oh yeah? How did she figure out the whole steps? Through observations, of course. There's no such thing as privacy when you become a parent!


Step #3: Scheduled toilet visits

This is the second most tiring part after wiping and mopping urine off the floor. Basically every 30 minutes I had to call her and bring her to sit on the potty chair whether she really wants to go or not. I will stand by the door making 'sheee-ing' sounds while she gave bewildered stare at me. This lasted between 10-15 minutes and then she was free to step out. The next minute I knew, she made this sound, 'Ahhh… Shee-shee…' and I have a pool of urine to clean up!

T_T


Step #4: Free, free as a bird!

With cloth diaper and training pants are not producing any exciting behaviour modification just yet, so I decided to heed a few people's advice of letting her loose without any diapers. Just shorts, or even in just her t-shirt sometimes. The first few days were nightmares - I was screaming non-stop whenever she had her 'accidents' on the carpet / sofa / bed / floor. Especially on the carpet! I know it's not her fault for not telling because she's still not used to it, but I couldn't help ranting at her for making me wipe the carpet / floor / change sheets / etc.!  This continued on for the next 3 days.

By the 4th day, she was kind enough to let me know by saying, 'Ahhh… Shee-shee!' while she had her 'accidents'. So I ranted at her again ('Why must you tell me AFTER you have done it???') for the next 2-3 days.

By the 2nd week, somehow it got through her mind that she must tell me before she went, so she said, 'Shee-shee?' and off we sprinted to the toilet together, me cheering her on and giving praises for her thoughtfulness!

Talk about positive and negative reinforcement!


Step #5: Let her be involved in the process

Since Khayla loves to imitate my actions and loves feeling like a grown-up, so I let her empty her potty after she has had a go, then flush the toilet. This is the part that she loves doing the most and thankfully, she has gone through the transition from diaper to potty within just 2 weeks without much fuss (and lots of exercise for me of course).

In fact, she became so used to being clean and dry all day that she even refused to wet her diaper pant when we go out, but instead will make a noise that will escalate to frantic noises if she has to go to the toilet! Sometimes at night, she also wakes us up to go to the loo. It was kind of amusing at first, but now we look back in nostalgia at those times when we had a good night sleep!

Khayla also became confident enough to use the toilet itself whenever she has to do No. 2, much to my relief. She learnt to rest her feet on the potty chair lid so having the potty chair was a blessing indeed.

So there it is. Khayla's potty-training journey. I hope that Khadeeja's journey will be as smooth and turbulent-free as this one!

The Cloth Diaper Story

Khayla is now 18 months old. She drinks a lot of milk. She pees a lot. Suddenly, I find that the cloth diaper is leaking!

o_O

But I like being the super Earth-friendly mommy! I don't mind washing her cloth diapers, because it just needs rinsing and then thrown into the washing machine for the rest. And we save 2 diapers (disposable ones) a day, minimum.

Plus, she doesn't have red rashes on her private area due to prolonged exposure to her urine whenever she wears the cloth diaper.

So for a few months my not-so-Earth-friendly hubby refused to put on cloth diapers on Khayla. Instead, it's only reserved for swimming activity. But for wearing in the house, especially at the prospect of accidents as Khayla likes to sit in his lap, he's not so keen on that.

So I look and look for the solution.

And I found it.

Turns out I just need to put an extra insert in the diaper. Wearing two inserts means she can play, run, waddle, climb and sit in our lap without the danger of leaking cloth diaper.



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Success!

So for the second baby, I am aiming to have at least 20 cloth diapers and 10 extra inserts so we can save a lot on disposable diapers not just for the second one, but also for Khayla.

Last week, I tried out their online store to order two CDs and biodegradable diaper liner (because a newborn does not wet the diaper that much, but they pee and poo frequently). The service is quite fast. Within 2 days, I received my order.

I'm also wearing Lunatots Suri Pantyliner, which is their cloth pantyliners during my pregnancy due to leukorrhea. Not only it makes me more comfortable, I don't have to worry about running out of stock of pantyliners as I did last time. And it dries fast! :) I have four of them yet I don't run out of it even though I wear it daily.

Two thumbs up to Lunatots!